On being American

My grandad is 94. He grew up in Belfast. Every Sunday we talk on Skype. When I adopted my husband’s religion it caused some family drama. I had been raised catholic and attended those schools. What the heck? When I explained my Judaism actually allowed me to explore Wiccan and Buddhism my Irish family calmed…

She left me speechless

I keep spare umbrellas in my car. I collect them at work and ask for them at other medical offices. Personally I’ve never lost an umbrella. I’m OCD and always know exactly where my “things” are. I keep the umbrellas and hand them out when it rains to people at bus stops. I don’t ride…

You host a BBQ, I’ll host a funeral

In high school, I played soccer. I was friends with two other girls on my team who known to me were a couple. With the exception of one other person, no one in our school knew. It was speculated and gossiped but their being lesbians was the great mystery for the rest of the student…

I am disgusted we are here

We are on the wire. This man will probably be appointed.  Let me tell why I feel this is not okay. Our country is currently divided. It is across racial and sexual divides. It also extends beyond generations. Younger men feel alienated from older men. This is making it worse. a man who is supposed…

I asked for my rape

My posse my senior year was Kristen and Lora.  Lora was dating a guy who told us to attend a party that Saturday in the neighboring city.  The Posse got dressed up and went to what was a high school party of frat party levels. The home was a mansion on a lake with a…

Sometimes a shoulder is just a shoulder

My friend Paula is crippled from childhood rheumatic arthritis. When we go out together I drop her off at the door of the restaurant or we take her handicap placard to use if we know there will be a lot of walking like a concert venue. Recently we went on a girl’s weekend and I…

How I am like your cat but better

When your cat is hungry they annoy the piss out of you until you cave. I go from fine to hungry in 30 seconds and have been known to have a toddler level tantrum if I’m not fed. Your cat doesn’t like where you put ________ so they give you a look and you know…

When your abuser dies

One day a few months ago I wondered what I will do when my mother dies. We haven’t spoken in years and at the age of 46, I am still scared of her. Even though I know physically she no longer can harm me I fear her words. Thinking about this has propelled me to…

Pale girl walking… but you saw that

This last week my self-assurance took a whattheeverloving fuck hit. I have pretty good self-esteem. Now. That took a lot of therapy and also maturity. I am heavier than I have ever been and only mind slightly. My spouse actually likes the change and I have to keep telling him this is temporary. Knee gets…

Me too but we need some rules

Tonight my husband and I had a discussion that surprised me. For the first time I saw his point of view on men being called to the mat on Hollywood sexual harassment. My argument was that I belived 8 out of 10 women are telling the truth and the rest are just hoping to get…

Friend of the Squirel

Less than a mile from my home is a Quaker church. This particular church was instrumental in the Underground Railroad. The Society of Friends in my opinion are the original hippies. They are pacifists who love everybody. In my 20s I attended several SoF meetings and enjoyed the people and the services even though my…