The Big Picture

In her 20s, my sister Colleen asked our mother why she had built her up to the extent that she had an over inflated sense of attractiveness. She wanted to know why she had been told she was beautiful and I was told I was at least smart, therefore down playing my looks and praising…

Masturbation Olympian

I was diagnosed with the flu on Friday. Yes, I had a flu shot prior. Yes, I am on Tamiflu. Saturday my fever reached 102 and I am lying on my marble bathroom floor trying to get my feverish skin to accept the cold from the floor.  In my somewhat delusional state I began thinking…

My cynical heart

In September I was dumped. Dumped on the level of a 7th grader. He dumped me via a text, blocked me on social media and phone. I never heard a word from the man who two hours previously claimed to love me. Here’s the issue: I’m over him but I’m not open to dating again….

Love. Avoidance and Truth

I always believed in love. The books I read, movies I watched, and what I was told by adults always made me think that one day my soulmate would find me and I’d live happily ever after. My disillusionment happened much like someone’s loss of faith. Something horrific happens and you question if there is…

The Case for Weed

When I was younger I smoked a lot of weed. It was my Xanax. I lived with a mentally and physically abusive parent. When your parent is mentally unstable you may get a belt for asking what’s for dinner or because your sibling didn’t do her chores. My mother kicked me out my senior year…

Why manners matter

I once wrote a post on Fetlife about manners and etiquette. I wrote that I have seen a decline in these things over the years and how it saddens me. Manners are how we behave in regards to one another. Etiquette is a code of acceptable behavior; it tells us how to respond and interact…

Bisexual women are the crux of the problem

Sometimes I read things and feel enough succinct points were made that maybe I need to reexamine my beliefs or viewpoints. I strongly believe that by not discussing things we will never find solutions. But I am frankly tired of talking about guns. Is it the Republicans’ fault for telling everyone that the evil liberals…

I’m a predator

The women in my family are of stern stuff. “Weaklings cry.” Showing vulnerability is weakness and weakness will be exploited. I learned very early in my life to hide my emotions and keep my true self camouflaged. It was as if I knew I had to protect my child self and anticipated unwrapping her when…

Perspectives

Today I’ve read three articles about the R. Kelly interview with Gayle King. Two of the articles references several Tweets giving their view of what happened at one climatic moment when R. Kelly stands and addresses the camera passionately while Gayle sits poised and perfectly still. Opinions vary as to what we are seeing. Several…

I’m not your type.

Last spring I ended things with a man I had been casually seeing. He said he wasn’t surprised because, “you are too hot for me.” The sad truth is he was right. Right now I am sure you are thinking “Wow! Libby has quite the ego!” Let me explain my thoughts before you toss me…

The Nice versus “nice” guy

I have a friend named Rob who is a nice guy. I also have Jason and Ian whom I count as friends and who I genuinely see as Nice guys. I have texted Ian and told him I need to have a drink and talk. This is code for “politics and world events are upsetting…

She left me speechless

I keep spare umbrellas in my car. I collect them at work and ask for them at other medical offices. Personally I’ve never lost an umbrella. I’m OCD and always know exactly where my “things” are. I keep the umbrellas and hand them out when it rains to people at bus stops. I don’t ride…