The Nice versus “nice” guy

I have a friend named Rob who is a nice guy. I also have Jason and Ian whom I count as friends and who I genuinely see as Nice guys. I have texted Ian and told him I need to have a drink and talk. This is code for “politics and world events are upsetting…

On being American

My grandad is 94. He grew up in Belfast. Every Sunday we talk on Skype. When I adopted my husband’s religion it caused some family drama. I had been raised catholic and attended those schools. What the heck? When I explained my Judaism actually allowed me to explore Wiccan and Buddhism my Irish family calmed…

She left me speechless

I keep spare umbrellas in my car. I collect them at work and ask for them at other medical offices. Personally I’ve never lost an umbrella. I’m OCD and always know exactly where my “things” are. I keep the umbrellas and hand them out when it rains to people at bus stops. I don’t ride…

You host a BBQ, I’ll host a funeral

In high school, I played soccer. I was friends with two other girls on my team who known to me were a couple. With the exception of one other person, no one in our school knew. It was speculated and gossiped but their being lesbians was the great mystery for the rest of the student…

I am disgusted we are here

We are on the wire. This man will probably be appointed.  Let me tell why I feel this is not okay. Our country is currently divided. It is across racial and sexual divides. It also extends beyond generations. Younger men feel alienated from older men. This is making it worse. a man who is supposed…

I asked for my rape

My posse my senior year was Kristen and Lora.  Lora was dating a guy who told us to attend a party that Saturday in the neighboring city.  The Posse got dressed up and went to what was a high school party of frat party levels. The home was a mansion on a lake with a…

I’m their Libby

Currently I have a relationship with four people; my spouse, two men and a female. Being in an open marriage has really grown my sexuality in ways I never anticipated. I have always been a sexual creature. Even when I was a virgin I was told by an older man I oozed sex. I didn’t…

The music made me do it

I had some time to kill between appointments today. I found a nice tree to park under and read some blogs as I listened to music through the Bluetooth. A song came on from my playlist and I immediately began thinking of sex. “Love is a Bitch” by Two Feet. I went from reading a…

The awkwardness of feelings

I hate to admit it but I’ve been emotional the last two weeks. This is a new thing for me and not my norm so I’m struggling with all these…..feelings. I grew up in a home where my feelings were used against me. Signs of weakness were exploited and happiness was quashed like a mosquito…

Sometimes a shoulder is just a shoulder

My friend Paula is crippled from childhood rheumatic arthritis. When we go out together I drop her off at the door of the restaurant or we take her handicap placard to use if we know there will be a lot of walking like a concert venue. Recently we went on a girl’s weekend and I…

His top shelf girl

I wanted a Paloma tonight.  At the store, I did a mental inventory and knew I had tequila at home. I get grapefruit soda and a lime. At home, I realize I am out of Herradura and have a choice of Cuervo or Padron. I opt for the Padron.   Padron is good. The silver…

To thine self be untrue

Today I came to a disappointing realization. It began to grow as an idea two weeks ago when someone I work with said “you have to love every body.” I disagreed and said I have to help people but I didn’t have to love them. To help and serve is a human response. She tried…