Why manners matter

I once wrote a post on Fetlife about manners and etiquette. I wrote that I have seen a decline in these things over the years and how it saddens me. Manners are how we behave in regards to one another. Etiquette is a code of acceptable behavior; it tells us how to respond and interact…

Bisexual women are the crux of the problem

Sometimes I read things and feel enough succinct points were made that maybe I need to reexamine my beliefs or viewpoints. I strongly believe that by not discussing things we will never find solutions. But I am frankly tired of talking about guns. Is it the Republicans’ fault for telling everyone that the evil liberals…

I’m a predator

The women in my family are of stern stuff. “Weaklings cry.” Showing vulnerability is weakness and weakness will be exploited. I learned very early in my life to hide my emotions and keep my true self camouflaged. It was as if I knew I had to protect my child self and anticipated unwrapping her when…

Perspectives

Today I’ve read three articles about the R. Kelly interview with Gayle King. Two of the articles references several Tweets giving their view of what happened at one climatic moment when R. Kelly stands and addresses the camera passionately while Gayle sits poised and perfectly still. Opinions vary as to what we are seeing. Several…

I’m not your type.

Last spring I ended things with a man I had been casually seeing. He said he wasn’t surprised because, “you are too hot for me.” The sad truth is he was right. Right now I am sure you are thinking “Wow! Libby has quite the ego!” Let me explain my thoughts before you toss me…

The Nice versus “nice” guy

I have a friend named Rob who is a nice guy. I also have Jason and Ian whom I count as friends and who I genuinely see as Nice guys. I have texted Ian and told him I need to have a drink and talk. This is code for “politics and world events are upsetting…

On being American

My grandad is 94. He grew up in Belfast. Every Sunday we talk on Skype. When I adopted my husband’s religion it caused some family drama. I had been raised catholic and attended those schools. What the heck? When I explained my Judaism actually allowed me to explore Wiccan and Buddhism my Irish family calmed…

She left me speechless

I keep spare umbrellas in my car. I collect them at work and ask for them at other medical offices. Personally I’ve never lost an umbrella. I’m OCD and always know exactly where my “things” are. I keep the umbrellas and hand them out when it rains to people at bus stops. I don’t ride…

You host a BBQ, I’ll host a funeral

In high school, I played soccer. I was friends with two other girls on my team who known to me were a couple. With the exception of one other person, no one in our school knew. It was speculated and gossiped but their being lesbians was the great mystery for the rest of the student…

I am disgusted we are here

We are on the wire. This man will probably be appointed.  Let me tell why I feel this is not okay. Our country is currently divided. It is across racial and sexual divides. It also extends beyond generations. Younger men feel alienated from older men. This is making it worse. a man who is supposed…

I asked for my rape

My posse my senior year was Kristen and Lora.  Lora was dating a guy who told us to attend a party that Saturday in the neighboring city.  The Posse got dressed up and went to what was a high school party of frat party levels. The home was a mansion on a lake with a…